The following contains my thoughts on Dateline’s recent episode, “Deadly Desire.” The full episode, reported by Keith Morrison, can be found on Dateline‘s website.
Once again I find myself the viewer of an all-too-familiar Dateline plot: “a love triangle turns deadly.”
And boy, was that description correct. Yet almost ambiguous at the same time. I could see the writing on the wall very quickly in this case, but the question I was asking myself throughout it all was, “Who is going to end up dead?”
Morbid, I know. But really. Someone has to die if the “love triangle turns deadly,” I mean, right? And right off both wives were talking to Keith Morrison so I knew it couldn’t be either of them. A part of me actually thought that perhaps both of these women had both lost their husbands to a stupid affair.
And that’s just where this case starts — an affair. The broadcast sort of glossed over the affair that began it all and that was the affair of Kandi’s husband, Rob. There was maybe a full minute devoted to explaining his affair, and then it was brushed under the rug and never mentioned again. I wanted to know more about that. How long had this been going on? Who was this woman? Where did he meet her? Was she married? Did she have children? Did they ever break it off? I guess it wouldn’t have changed the outcome of what happened in this story, but it would have been nice to know the answers of these things just to get a better picture of who Rob really was. Or is. Whatever.
Emmett really had a lot going for him in life. He had been blessed with a beautiful and supportive wife, and five children. He had just become a lawyer and was clearly successful already in his career even though he was just starting out. I do not understand what drove him to start having an affair with Kandi, nor will I ever, but he really appeared to be the most unlikely man to carry on with another woman. Especially when his wife was still pregnant with their fifth child. I mean, really. I guess once again, the theme here is selfishness.
Rob was selfish and had an affair because he “wasn’t fulfilled by Kandi” anymore. Kandi was selfish and “needed to feel loved and appreciated” again so she had an affair with Emmett. And Emmett bought into it all and completely betrayed his family in the process, and in the end, that cost him his life. Unbelievable. Selfishness drove three people to an absolutely crazy scene and had these people just stayed faithful, or had they just gotten separated or divorced, or here’s one — TALKED to their spouse about how they “felt” and were HONEST with each other — maybe Emmett would still be alive today. And be there for his five children. Gosh I still can’t believe it.
Now, fast forwarding to the actual scene of the crime. This is where things get interesting, and Dateline also glossed over a tiny detail that I think could have been elaborated more or even perhaps brought up in the investigation. (Which it may have, who knows) Emmett’s wife talks about surprising him by cleaning out his car and she finds all of these prescription bottles. What were these medications? What was he taking them for? Could these have produced side effects that drove him to act seemingly out of character? The way Kandi describes that last evening made him appear to be almost “‘roided’ out” (using steroids) by saying things like, “What’s up, CHIEF” and allegedly fighting Rob in the parking lot. Or maybe it had nothing to do with drugs, prescription or not, legal or not, maybe he had just snapped. Or the selfishness took over. Or all of the above. Or none of the above. I don’t know.
The interesting thing about this “crime scene” was that Kandi was technically a witness, though claimed to only have “heard” the shots since her back was turned to both of the men when the shots rang out. She says she heard two shots together: “POWPOW” and a pause, and then one more shot: “POW.” She turned around to find both men covered in blood and whose side does she run to? Emmett’s. How interesting.
She watches Emmett die, meanwhile, there’s her husband lying on the ground also bleeding. Of course she calls 911 and it all goes from there. When Rob told his story to Keith at the end of the broadcast, it was not consistent with any part of the evidence found at the scene or Kandi’s story. The most telling piece of evidence when it comes to “who shot who” is the gun shot residue. ALL of the residue was on Rob’s hands. None on Emmett’s. Now, I don’t know much about guns (nor do I want to), but I’m pretty sure that it’s almost impossible to fire a gun and not have gun shot residue on your hands afterward. (Please, enlighten me if I’m wrong) Therefore, I don’t buy the story that Emmett somehow got his gun and shot Rob first.
And while I’m at it — the gun. Rob had that gun “on his person” when he “went to the Walgreen’s looking for Kandi.” Now, I know people bring guns almost everywhere in Texas, but this was Idaho. And would someone really bring a gun to Walgreen’s just because they like to carry a gun around? Furthermore, it was supposedly Kandi’s gun. As far as I know, getting dressed in the morning doesn’t include grabbing a gun to stick in your pants or sweatshirt pocket or whatever. But, then again, who knows. So, if he brought the gun to the Walgreen’s when he left the house, that could show that he was planning on possibly using it when he confronted Kandi and Emmett. Which could show premeditation but that’s beside the point right now.
Then we have the issue of Kandi’s version of the shots she heard as they fired. “POWPOW.” Pause. “POW.” This would be consistent with Rob firing the two shots at Emmett, and then pulling the gun on himself to commit suicide, but obviously that ended up botched since Rob is still alive. Rob’s version of events were that Emmett shot him with his gun, and then Rob took the gun and fired back “in self defense” at Emmett, which is ironically in the chest and then in the head. Self defense shots in the two places known to kill a person, really? That doesn’t add up in my head. Defending yourself, last I checked, doesn’t mean killing someone to the point of “making sure they’re dead,” but then again, what do I know? He shot him at point blank range and HAD TO HAVE KNOWN he was killing him. If Kandi is telling the truth with the the sequence she heard the gun shots, then Rob’s story is not plausible. I think the evidence shows that Kandi’s version is correct.
Therefore, Rob’s story he told to Keith Morrison (not the jury, he didn’t take the stand in his trial) just doesn’t add up with the evidence. Whatever the case, he was found guilty of second-degree murder which was an appropriate verdict in this case since it was hard to prove the premeditation. Kandi, on the other hand, did not get off easy in the end either. Now also in prison for grand theft. (Totally unrelated to this case but interesting how that happens, right?)
Moral of this story? Don’t have affair. Ever.